I spent most of my time reading ~ even when I am shopping, munching pastries and sipping coffee, lazing about in my apartment, waiting for BK to finish his wind-surfing during weekends while in Singapore, in between actions …
This is a simple book that caught my eyes yesterday, found it in a half price book store at Rice Village: Life’s Journeys According to Mister Rogers… by Fred Rogers
Selective phrases resonate in me – which I strongly believe in in living my life , and some which set me thinking ~ which I will hold them dear to live my life. These 2 I did not separate…
Foreword by Joanne Roger
1. … always allowed each other to have own space … but even when we were apart, we were connected ~ pp4.
2. … had a heart that had room for everyone, and … fascinated by other people’s journeys ~ pp5.
3. … “we” and “our” – … so much a part of my ongoing journey ~ pp6.
As late Fred Rogers shared:
Who You Are Right Now
1. … that I’m more able to accept myself as I happen to be, rather than as somebody thought I should be ~ pp 13.
2. … the discovery of “who I am” in each of us – the “who I am” in relation to all those whom I meet ~ pp 14.
3. … we all need to feel that we can bring the whole of ourselves to the people who care about us ~ pp 16.
4. … if we can allow ourselves to be gentle with ourselves no matter what our feeling may be, we have the chance of discovering the very deep roots of who we are ~ pp 25.
5. … “~ (need to refer again, can’t understand what I wrote too)” Quoting Dalai Lama ~ pp 26.
6. … “I can do almost anything, but I’m still myself, I’m still myself, I am still myself inside…” Quoting song I’m Still Myself Inside ~ pp 28.
7. … people can like you exactly as you are ~ pp 29.
8. … nobody else can live the life you live… we always have the chance to bring what’s unique about us to life ~ pp 31.
9. … we were never made to feel that we had to be somebody that we were not, yet we were always encouraged to choose to be the best of who we were at the moment ~ pp 35.
10. … there’s a part of all of us that longs to know that even what’s weakest about us is still redeemable and can ultimately count for something good ~ pp 36.
11. … And one reason we feel shy is that we’re not sure people will like us just the way we are ~ pp 37.
12 … It’s really easy to fall into the trap of believing that what we do is more important than what we are. Of course, it’s the opposite that’s true: What we are determines what we do! ~ pp 44.
13. … people of all ages have deep feelings, and if we have the patience to wait through the silence, it’s often astounding what people will tell us ~ pp 45.
14. … some of us must have forgotten how nourishing silence can be … whatever it’s called, it’s time away form outside stimulation, during which inner turbulence can settle, and we have a chance to become familiar with ourselves ~ pp 47.
15. … “L’essentiel est invisible pour les yeux.” ~ The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupery ~ pp 54.
Loving and Being Loved
1. … anyone who has ever been able to sustain good work has had at least one person – and often many – who have believed in him or her. We just don’t get to be competent human beings without a lot of different investments from others ~ pp 65.
How true. With my persistence held strong, I made one attempt after another … I ventured new grounds ~ all ‘coz someone believed that I am better than the self I judged, all ‘coz I heard “you can do it”… Joy
2. … as relationship matures, you start to see that just being there for each other is the most important thing you can do … ~ pp 68.
3. … the best gifts are often wrapped in the most unspectacular way … isn’t it the “heartsurprise” that lingers in your memory and serves to nourish you from year to year? ~ pp 69.
4. … there is something so comforting to realize that life goes on one way or another – even when those we love are way beyond our sight ~ pp 71.
(con’t from my break…)
5. … coz deep down we know that what matters in this life is more than winning for ourselves. What really matters is helping others win, too, even if it means slowing down and changing our course now and then ~ pp 73.
I hold this close to my heart ~ I smiled when I saw the smile from her eyes from the small wins in class, I smiled wider when I knew how the wins made her day – I was happy and I scored a bigger win too. It is definitely more satisfying than the solitude of winning all alone. Joy
6. … every human being has value … through living each day as it is given to me, I’ve learned that. It cannot be “taught”, but it can be “caught” from those who live their lives right along with us. What a privilege to be able to look for the good in our neighbour! ~ pp 76.
7. … we speak with more than our mouths. We listen with more than our ears ~ pp 79.
8. … feeling good about ourselves is essential in our being able to love others ~ pp 86.
9. … it’s so great that people can be in a relationship with each other for the now and not a whole lot of baggage from their past and a whole lot of anxiety about the future to the present moment ~ pp 90.
10. … there is a close relationship between truth and trust ~ pp 93.
11. … where would any of us be without teachers – without people who have passion for their art or their science or their craft and love it right in front of us? What would any of us do without teachers passing on to us what they know is essential about life ~ pp 94.
12. … the receiving in life to me is one of the greatest gifts that we give another person. And it’s very hard. Because when you give, you’re in much greater control. But when you receive something – you’re vulnerable ~ pp 97.
This is one area I need to continuously work on. I love to give, and it is more natural to me … By being a poor receiver, I made things awkward for the giver sometimes. I have improved, I learnt to smile and say “thank you” for each compliment, each gift, each blessing… I learnt to let the giver know I truly appreciate the gift. Joy
13. … all of us – were created by LOVE. Love with a capital L. And we spend our lives trying to recognize that we truly are lovable and capable of loving ~ pp 100.
BK and I believe in living our lives with Love. Love drives us crazy sometimes, or do we call it passion? Love resonates in us like a rhythm, it moves up and down … it gives the heart beat to every friendship we value, every action we took. Joy
14. … if you’re trusted, then people will allow you to share their inner garden – what greater gift! ~ pp 101
1. … there’s often a tendency for us to hurry through transitions. We may feel that these transitons are "nowhere at all" compared to what’s gone before or what we anticipate is next to come. But you are somewhere … you’re “between” ~ pp 106.
2. … isn’t it mysterious how so many wonderful things in life come to us seemingly without our planning? We start travelling down one street, and we find ourselves interested in something we never expected on a side street; and as we explore it, the side street becomes the main road for us ~ pp 107.
I came to understand, from each present position I set my future, I only continue in my present position. But if I start moving along and explore beyond, I find new inspirations, meet new people who share my journey, break the rules and savour the present moments. Joy
3. … “what do you think that means, ‘ the past is prologue’?” … I think it means, “Man, you ain’t seen nothin’ yet!” ~ pp 110.
4. … when you can actually integrate what you’ve learned with your own personality – when you can actually use your education to be who you want to be, to choose out of that mixed bag of explorations what you want to call yourself. That’s when your education adds an extra measure of excitement! ~ pp 115.
5. … there is much more to independence than learning to master new skills. One fo the most important parts of independence is learning to form new relationships with other people ~ pp 120.
6. … there are time when explanations, no matter how reasonable, just don’t seem to help ~ pp 122.
7. … it may be that the most important mastery we achieve early on is not the mastery of a particualr skill or particular piece of knowledge, but rather the mastery of the patience and persistence that learning requires, along with the ability to expect and accept mistakes and the feelings of disappointment they may bring ~ pp 123.
8. … try your best to make goodness attractive. That’s one of the toughest assignments you’ll ever be given ~ pp 136.
9. … we don’t always succeed in what we try – certainly not by the world’s standards – but i think you’ll find it’s the willingness to keep trying that matters most ~ pp 139.
10. … in fact, no one gets to be a graduate without the investment of other people: people who have loved you all along the way ~ pp 147.
I believe in living my life journey and in sharing this journey with all who trust me – I have been inspired by great individuals and in turn I seek to continuously inspire & give. Joy